Monday, March 19, 2007

I recently met two people – both of the same amazing stature, both equally impressive, both who have achieved phenomenally in their lives. When I spoke with one, he remembered my name half an hour later after meeting countless other people, he was engaging, he asked relevant questions and in short, with his every word and action he was present in the conversation with me.

The other person was a striking figure and was never rude or discourteous, but he looked over my shoulder as we spoke and was obviously keen to dash once our brief conversation was done.

Whenever you meet anyone in your life you have the power to either “be present” in that conversation and in that moment – or not. It’s a simple gesture, but why not try to be present everywhere you can. With a stranger you’ve just met, with your family (I know I’m guilty of zoning out at times here), with your workmates.

Today set yourself the challenge that you’ll be present with everyone you interact with.

Three simple tips (that aren’t rocket science) to increase your ability to be present:

- Remember and use someone’s name when you’ve just met them
- Remember a fact they’ve said in a previous conversation and ask them about it (how did the fishing go this weekend, how was your daughter’s swim meet)
- Ask a question that allows them to go deeper on something they’ve already said

By doing the above not only will you make someone else feel engaged and special but you could very well be making an impact on a valuable future client or friend.

By Kirsty Dunphey with 1 comment


I was sitting at home feeling somewhat negative, so i looked to your website for some inspiration. You are so right, we need to concentrate on being in the present, which I have a bad habit of not doing! I also loved "Learning should be a Daily Journey", especially the quote "there's nothing so amazing about what they were born with - just what they did with it". I feel sometimes I'm not as smart as others but I just have remember to use what I have to the best of my ability, that's the key. Thank you for reminding me. I love your enthusiasum, good on you!

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