Friday, October 19, 2012

How to have it all


I sat, perched on the edge of my seat, hands clasped together, eyes downturned and… if I’m fair… a bead of sweat glancing across my forehead.

The nerves and anticipation I felt this week as I sat willing with every fibre in my body for my business partner, the amazing Megan Hampton to have her name called out at the Tasmanian Business Women’s Awards was ten times that which I felt when I sat in her seat myself a decade ago.

This year however, it wasn’t Megan’s year for the glory of the win – but I could not be more proud of her for being named as a finalist in two categories for Tasmania. She is a shining example of someone who has committed herself to growth and continued learning as she’s gone from being a complete real estate newbie, to an amazing property manager, to now owning her own real estate business (luckily – with me!) over the past years. Her development has been nothing short of staggering and add to that she took the leap of business ownership for the first time while she was 7 months pregnant, well – it’s no wonder I had tears in my eyes when I described my admiration for her in a referee call for the Telstra awards.

Even more of a compliment to Megan? The woman whose name was called out instead of hers. Partner in a Launceston accounting firm, Lucinda Mills was a stranger to me before the awards luncheon, and yet, I could see why she was a very deserving winner in the category Megan was with her in, but also why she won the overall award on the day.

These words sprang to mind when I heard her speech.

Real.
Determined.
Steadfast.
Innovative.

For me, when I hear someone speak there’s always one thing above others that stays with me. From Lucinda’s talk it was to ask for help. She spoke about the amazing support she’d had from family in her attempt to “have it all” – a flourishing career, an amazing marriage, travel and to be a great Mum.

Ask for help.

I’ve often thought that for me this has been the hardest challenge for me since becoming a mum (who still wants to build amazing businesses). I’ll happily delegate, don’t get me wrong. But ask for help? Admit I can’t do it all? I rarely had to do it before I became a mum to my gorgeous girl last year.  

Now, sometimes I need to ask for help just to go to the toilet on my own without a toddler clinging to my leg! As someone who has always been incredibly independent asking for help is hard for me. Maybe it is for you too.

But now, for me, if I want to have it all, if I want to be everything I’m capable of being, I need to ask for help. I need to not be afraid to ask for help. I need to surround myself with people who want to help me. I need to want to help them in return so that the relationship is synergistic.

Thank you Lucinda Mills for the reminder – congratulations on your success at these awards and for the role model you are to myself and no doubt now, countless others. Thank you to Megan Hampton, someone I am so fortunate to have as a friend, confidant, business partner and role model. And congratulations to every single woman who inspired someone enough that they nominated you for a Telstra Business Women’s Award this year – you are all incredible! 

By Kirsty Dunphey with 2 comments

2 comments:

Love it Kirsty! Asking for help is certainly easier said than done - that would rob us of the wonder woman title!! :)

Easier said than done - but a must do I think! I know someone has been there assisting you achieve all your recent greatness Miss Tina! You're astounding me! - K

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